Discipline and The Rules of Engagement: What Every Parent Needs to Know about the Use of Force
24. The “Links” Are Like Ladders
The interactive nature of information on the Internet means I don’t have to put everything in this book for you. I can “give you a link.” The “links” are like ladders. To make your access to “giants” easier, I am pulling the academic discussions out of the direct exhortation I’m leaving in the text. Some of us like academic discussions, some of us avoid them like the plague. Some of us are addicted. So you’ll find Academic Fixes inserted in easy-to-skip text boxes, along the way.
[Look for Author’s Post 13 for the Academic Fixes.]
This book is unfolding in two formats. Its essential format is the electronic manuscript where I type away on my tiny little notebook computer. That is the format that eventually will be raked over by professional editors in a publishing house where their ideas will improve the work to no end.
The more crucial format is the format posted here as a work-in-progress at www.drfranny.net, open to discussion from all comers. I didn’t come by these ideas in a closet, there is no use retreating to a closet to write them down.
One more question and answer, here, in the Preface. Is this just one more book about violence, pro or con?
No. The books about violence, in all its modern day social aspects have already been written by Rory Miller. The nitty-gritty on down and dirty self-defense as well as all manner of insight into street life is available in the work of Marc “Animal” McYoung. Both these men blog. Check Academic Fix #1and Fix #2 [Post 13] for more about them.
This book is more about studying the rules that govern violence in society and knowing what to expect when the use of force is in play. Sometime the use of force is in support of social norms, sometimes the use of force runs counter to them. Survivors use all the rules they can, and break as few as possible. To survive, you need to know the Rules. And as a parent, you want your children to survive and thrive.
Fran Fuller, April, 2015
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 “A link” is the key to writing in hyper-text. With the correct coding, whatever you write that is accessible on the Internet can be directly linked to anyone else’s writing. The hazard is always the stability of access to the web-publication you have “linked to.” Unlike the fixed in stone nature of print publications, hyper-text documents require maintenance. “Broken links” are not considered the problem of the web-publication that has vanished, but are a reflection on the publication that fails to edit them.
 Unfortunately for me, a blogging newbie, the text boxes did not translate to the web any better than the illustrations did. Please look for the Academic Fixes in Author’s Preface Post 13.
 Rory Miller. Meditations on Violence: A Comparison of Martial Arts Training and Real World Violence (2008) and Facing Violence: Preparing for the Unexpected (2011). Both from YMAA Publication Center: Wolfeboro, NH.
 Marc McYoung. His first of fourteen books was Cheap Shots, Ambushes, and Other Lessons published by Paladin Press In 1989. You have heard of people who speak several languages. They can shift from one language to the other the way most of us chase food around on a plate. Marc is fluent in so many of the nuances of body language it boggles the mind to watch him and listen to him at the same time. He makes sense because violence is so physical. Force is not necessarily physical. Violence is. Marc’s prose is fine. He is literally translating from a world of physical communication to the world of written information. Marc in person is unforgettable.